A Narcissist Is Always Angry — Even If You Can’t See It

You might believe that sometimes the narcissist in your life genuinely loves you.

That there are moments when they truly appreciate you.

That deep down, maybe they do care.

But the truth is: the anger is always there.

A narcissist can explode in a heartbeat:

• You walk into the room — suddenly your presence is “too much.”

• You say exactly what they wanted to hear — and still it’s “wrong.”

• You do everything to avoid conflict — and conflict still comes.

This isn’t random.

It’s how the narcissist maintains control.

Unpredictability is their weapon.

Where you are seeking love, they are seeking power.

Where you are seeking connection, they are seeking control.

And the longer you stay in this dynamic, the more you lose yourself.

Why Codependents Struggle to Feel Boundaries (And Narcissists Know It)

As a codependent, you were literally programmed not to feel your own boundaries.

If you grew up with a narcissistic parent or in an unsafe home environment, you learned:

•  “My feelings don’t matter.”
•  “If I’m good enough, they’ll stay.”
•  “Setting boundaries means rejection.”

And here’s the danger:

⚠️ A narcissist needs boundaries to stop.

⚠️ A codependent was never taught how to set them.

Which means:

• The more you please, the more they walk over you.

• The more you surrender, the more they demand.

• The more you hope for love, the more they punish you.

This is the heart of the destructive dynamic:

The codependent seeks love.

The narcissist seeks control.

The codependent gives themselves away.

The narcissist drains everything.

And that’s why breaking free can feel almost impossible.

The Rage of a Narcissist — Why It Always Explodes

The rage of a narcissist is not ordinary anger.

It is deep, toxic, and rooted in something much darker: their emotional immaturity.

A narcissist is emotionally stuck in the stage of a wounded inner child.

Their rage is:

• The tantrum of a frustrated child —

• Combined with the manipulative intelligence of an adult —

• And the physical strength of a grown man or woman.

⚠️ This makes narcissistic rage extremely dangerous.

When a narcissist explodes, it’s not because you did anything wrong.

It’s because they cannot control their own emotions.

And what does a codependent do when faced with narcissistic rage?

• People-please: “I have to fix this.”

• Self-blame: “Maybe I should have said it differently.”

• Keep hoping: “If I just try harder, they’ll change.”

But the painful truth is:

They don’t see it. And they never will.

How Narcissists Twist Your Reality

Narcissists follow a chillingly predictable pattern:

• They manipulate your reality, making you question your own perception.

• They rewrite the story, telling others that you hurt them.

• They project their flaws onto you — accusing you of being fake, selfish, or even narcissistic.

• They triangulate, involving exes, friends, or family members to create jealousy and rivalry.

• They promise a perfect future, keeping you hooked with dreams that will never materialise.

All of it serves one purpose:

To maintain control over you.

Boundaries Are the Only Solution — But Not for the Narcissist

If there’s one thing that truly distances you from a narcissist, it’s uncompromising boundaries.

Not explaining.

Not hoping they’ll understand.

Not softening, trying to earn love.

As a codependent, setting boundaries doesn’t come naturally.

But a narcissist requires your lack of them to continue the cycle.

Breaking free means doing something that feels completely unnatural to your nervous system:

• Learning what your boundaries feel like.

• Setting them.

• Enforcing them — without guilt or explanation.

This is exactly what you will learn in the 16-Week Codependency Recovery Programme:

• Resetting your nervous system so your body no longer reacts from fear.

• Feeling and guarding your boundaries — without shame.

• Breaking free from the illusion of “love” — and reclaiming your inner power.